Recognizing Rock Bottom Moments
We’ve all had “rock bottom” moments. Whether it was after losing a loved one, a medical diagnosis, traumatic event, divorce, or struggling with mental illness, or addiction. we’ve experienced it. Everyone’s life experiences look different and everyone responds in their way. It’s key to be mindful of the different ways it can show up.
The lowest moments don’t always look the way we expect them to. Sometimes the person experiencing these rock bottom moments appears to be more upbeat and fun than usual. They might be doing things that look opposite to what you expect. This could be acting overly energetic, fun, and more social as an escape from their thoughts. Keep in mind though, this isn’t genuine happiness. Rather, it’s a way for them to convince themselves and others that they aren’t really struggling. And of course, there are going to be people who express their struggles in more stereotypical ways. As non mental health professionals, here are some signs we can look out for to better help our family and friends get the help they need.
Overly “happy”?: As I explained earlier, sometimes people’s rock bottom moments can look like they are happier with their lives. But if you are close enough with this person, you can probably tell something is off. Is your friend acting out of character, such as being louder than usual? Are they spending a lot more? Do you notice that they drinking more? Do they get more upset when you cancel plans? These can all be subtle signs that this person is struggling but trying to fight it. If you notice this is the situation with someone in your life, having a meaningful conversation can help the person become more aware and seek the help they need. Remember, don’t be too judgemental and attack someone who's already having a hard time. Rather, ask the person with firmly but kind how they are doing and share some of the changes you’ve noticed. Don’t tell them how they’re feeling but still bring what you’ve noticed to their attention and give them the time they need to process it.
Stressed, depressed and fatigued: Overwhelming circumstances can be a huge trigger for people to hit rock bottom People who’ve reached such a low point often feel pressed down by trying to maintain. These people might be very on edge, irritatable, disengaged, on alert, and don’t seem to get enjoyment out of life. They might not want to go out and socialize, and if they do they seem very disconnected from the conversation. If you’ve noticed this in people around you, pay attention to how long it’s lasting. Always make yourself available and comfort them. In our fast-paced world, it can be easy to not notice these changes in people around us. Finding a time to connect with someone who is struggling. Sometimes all the person needs is to see someone notice them, and what they are going through, and is there to support them through that time.
I hope this helped to understand what rock bottom moments can look like. I can’t stress enough that everyone experiences a crisis differently. Listen to the person and take into account what they are sharing with you. Let them know help is available, and share if you were in a similar situation. Let’s work together to de-stigmatize mental illness and start that conversation for positive change!
